Find what you've been missing

Attached men and women looking for something they're missing – a fling, an emotional connection or a long-term discreet arrangement – and singles happy to date someone who's attached.

It isn't always about leaving a partner. Often it's reclaiming something lost to routine: physical intimacy that has faded at home, a need to feel wanted, or the thrill of something new.

NSA: no strings attached – physical, no expectations. FWB: friends with benefits – a recurring arrangement with someone you like. OpSec: operational security – the habits that keep an affair private.

Your real name and email are never shown on your profile, and other members see only your nearest town, never your address. Start with a photo that doesn't show your face if you prefer.

Use a brand-new email address just for this, never a work or shared family one. Avoid family cards. And keep your worlds apart – no messaging from the sofa next to your spouse.

You set the pace. A married man has as much to lose as you do, which tends to keep both sides careful. Take your time choosing.

Put effort into your profile – "ask me" isn't a bio. Be patient and respectful, build rapport first, and never send unsolicited explicit photos.

Affairs bring highs and, sometimes, guilt. Know your boundaries before you start, and tell an affair partner your limits early – no weekends, never leaving your spouse – so nobody gets hurt.