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Gay dating, explained
How is this different from the grid apps?
Grid apps put distance before personality, and plenty of men are tired of it. You're more than a torso picture and a distance metric – say what you're after, whether that's a husband, a friend with benefits or a travel companion.
What are bears, cubs and chubs?
Bears are larger, hairy men with a rugged image, known for being warm and inclusive. Cubs are younger bears. Chubs celebrate bigger bodies.
And twinks, jocks, otters, wolves and daddies?
Twinks are young, slim and smooth. Jocks live for the gym. Otters are hairy but slim. Wolves are dominant otters or bears. Silver daddies are older men who wear their grey with pride.
What do top, bottom, vers and side mean?
Top: prefers to penetrate. Bottom: prefers to receive. Vers: enjoys both. Side: doesn't do anal, preferring oral and other intimacy. Say yours in your profile – but it describes an act, not a personality.
Is there room for open relationships and throuples?
Yes. Open couples, threesomes and throuples all need honest negotiation. Say exactly what you're looking for in your profile.
How should I talk about sexual health?
Openly and without stigma. With PrEP and U=U (undetectable equals untransmittable), being clear about your status, condoms and how often you test is a sign of respect.
How do I meet safely?
Meet somewhere public first and tell a friend where you're going. If it's a hookup at someone's home, share your live location with someone you trust. If the vibe feels off, leave.
I'm coming out later in life – is this for me?
Yes. Plenty of men come out in their 30s, 40s, 50s or later – after a marriage, a career or a religious upbringing. The slang takes some learning, but your experience counts for a lot.
How do I spot catfish and pic collectors?
Look for the verified badge – ID verification is free and shows the person has proven who they are. Be wary of anyone who wants nudes but never wants to meet.