Love without limits

More than one romantic relationship at a time, with everyone's knowledge and consent. Unlike cheating, it's built on ethical non-monogamy – and it's about connection, not just sex.

Swinging is mostly recreational – parties, swapping for a night. Polyamory is about relationships: you're more likely to meet someone looking for a girlfriend or boyfriend. For casual fun, there's Swinging KinxHub.

Throuple or triad: a relationship of three. Polycule: the whole network of connected relationships. Metamour: your partner's partner. Compersion: joy at seeing your partner happy with someone else – the opposite of jealousy.

Yes – ethically. Treat a third as a person with her own needs and boundaries, never an accessory to your relationship. Dating separately, or letting a triad form on its own, tends to go better.

Yes. Solo poly people keep their independence while having several relationships – intimacy without the relationship escalator of marriage and children.

It happens, even to experienced poly people. It isn't failure; it's a feeling to talk about. "I feel insecure when you're away all weekend" opens the way to reassurance.

Video call before meeting any new partner or couple, and look for the verified badge. Talk about testing and protection early – in a polycule, everyone's health is connected.

On mainstream apps you spend first messages explaining you're not cheating. Here non-monogamy is the starting point.